It dawned on me as I was driving into the office one morning a few weeks ago. There was no music playing. Only the sounds of the road which I sometimes find peaceful during my morning commute. The thought came that out of all the work I’ve done, I have never really given myself full credit for it. Other people have been singing my praises for years and even though it always felt good in the moment, there was a sense of doubt in the back of my mind. I told myself it was because I wanted to stay humble but I was ultimately selling myself short in the process. Now here I was, finally starting to believe my own hype.
I’ve been going through a serious transition period as of late, both personally and professionally. Being the late bloomer that I am, I didn’t really start coming into my own until I turned 30 and even more so this year at 32. These days I find myself accepting new challenges and remaning confident in my ability to handle them. Not letting unfavorable circumstances dictate my mood internally. Bowing out of the detrimental comparison game. Cultivating relationships I often shied away from and going for more of the things I’ve always wanted in life without being led by fear.
It’s like an unexplainable sense of unwavering happiness that I’d been seeking for a long time but always seemed to come up short on actually obtaining. The funny thing is that it seemed to happen when I least expected it. The moment I decided to fully relinquish my false sense of control over certain aspects of life, things seemed to fall in place. Of course, nothing is perfect but being at a place where you finally accept yourself for who you are, flaws and all, is the beginning of life’s imperfect perfection.
Oftentimes, we go so hard for others but forget to be our own cheerleader. So much so, that when praise comes, we don’t really know how to accept it and find a way to negate it. If you are Iike I was and feel that believing your own hype somehow means you’re getting too big for your britches, please take it from me that it’s really not. That’s not to say you shouldn’t be mindful of the fine line between being confident and becoming downright arrogant but there’s nothing wrong with tooting your own horn from time to time or being comfortable when others do it for you.
The best thing about going through something and coming out on the other side, is being able to help others avoid the same pitfalls. So take a moment and relish in the greatness of yourselves. The question rings true; if you don’t believe in yourself, who will? Even though I was blessed to have people in my life who believed in me when I didn’t believe in myself, I can also tell you about the many opportunities I’ve lost because of years of self-doubt and sabotage. Don’t let that be you.
Here’s to believing your own hype!